You know, guys ask me questions about " making love " and "how to become a PUA " and similar topics incessantly .
But the simple fact of the matter for all of these sort of questions is there is no "dating guru" that can give you any better instruction than good old "experience".
But by now you are saying "but how do I get experience when I don't know where to go or how to meet women?"
You do it by meeting women and approaching women any way you can in large droves. It is called serial dating. And when I authored my first guide "How I Got 700 Dates In One Year" it caused a little controversy.
I guess I should explain. I am not a cheater and don't believe in cheating. That is not what serial dating is about. Serial dating is about the times you are NOT in a relationship. It is about what you do in between relationships. It is about sanely selecting a mate.
And I am not talking about men and women who multiple or serial date their entire lives. Obviously those people have some major relationship problems.
But, serial dating applied in the right context is not only not dysfunctional, but it is quite the contrary. Serial dating done to get a better comprehension of the opposite sex, so you can figure out who you are fond of, and what you like, and what kinds of individuals like you, is about the most mentally healthy thing you can do.
What do you think most parents told their teen sons and daughters?
"Don't get too serious with one person. You need to meet and date different people.
Now believe it or not, this teenage advice can also be very good advice for adults.
Most of us adults never actually followed good old mom and dad's advice. We instead met someone we kind of liked and connected with them and ignored the rest.
Sort of like, we got together with the first acceptable person who showed some real interest in us.
Unfortunately, there is a significant difference between "acceptable¯" and "ideal"¯ and also regrettably most people usually continue this habit of hooking up with the first "acceptable"¯ person who comes along well into maturity.
We call this "settling".
We call this "compromising".
We call this all sorts of names years later when we realize we aren't happy.
You see there are many different types of people in the world and, believe it or not, there is someone for everyone. But the problem is you may have to meet a heck of a lot of people to find that one someone.
Another problem is that many people are so confused about life and relationships and people, they don't really have any idea of what kind of personality is a good match for them. They base their ideals off of the Hollywood imagery of what they think they want.
The cure is simple. When you date and meet lots of people, sooner or later, you figure it out for yourself. It's a natural process. You get comfortable with people, you realize that everyone is different, and that different types of people like different types of people. Eventually you figure out what kind of person you are and what kind of people you get along with best.
And lo and behold, that is all us "dating gurus" have ever successfully done to meet women and attract women . We have just gone out there and got a lot of experience.
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